So Elizabeth Gilbert posted a piece today on Facebook, considering the weight we have in other people's lives, and the weight they have in our lives.
If we are all crabs in a bucket, do we grab others and keep them in the bucket with us, or do we let them (she muses) out of the bucket to go and be themselves?
If we are all crabs in a bucket, do we let others hold us back, staying on with the crabs we know and love, in our familiar little bucket (which we might have helped renovate and furnish), or, when it is our turn to climb out, do we take a deep breath and go over the side, knowing and trusting that our gracious co-crabs will relinquish their hold (and maybe even boost you up a little)?
As a mother of teens I am working hard on not being too crabby/grabby. Sometimes grace is hard to come by when you realise just how much you are going to miss them. Even if they will come back occasionally.
As a writer and performer who is resident in the bucket I am so grateful for the "claws-off" approach of my family and friends.
"True Grace - to want somebody to grow, even if it means that they might outgrow you."
Thank you Elizabeth Gilbert, AGAIN.
Love, Peace and Light